ON WRITING ABOUT THE ICK: NORMALIZING THE CONVERSATIONS AROUND HEALTH ISSUES IN CHILDREN’S LITERATURE by Quinn Wyatt and Kirby Larson
QUINN WYATT has lived with Crohn’s for most of her life and is encouraged by all the progress that has been made over the years in the treatment of inflammatory bowel diseases. This is her first book. A mother-daughter writing team, both Quinn and Kirby live in Kenmore, Washington.
Quinn: Because slightly over 1 million people in the US live with Crohn’s disease. And, out of those million people, about 80,000 are kids. Kids like Tess Medina, the main character in GUT REACTION. Kids like me.
I grew up with a writer for a mom, so it seemed like a no-brainer to ask her to write a book about a kid living with Crohn’s because I thought it would be helpful. I was pretty surprised when she turned me down. Many, many times.
Kirby: In my defense, I knew that writing such a book would mean revisiting that tough time in our lives when Quinn was so, so sick and we could not figure out why. It was anguishing to be her mom and not be able to figure out what would make her feel better.
Quinn: But I kept asking because I really wanted to have a book out there that would help kids feel less alone coming to grips with the unpleasant and painful symptoms of illness and all of the changes a diagnosis often requires. And when I shared that with my mom, she said she’d do it. . .if we teamed up.
Kirby: We took ourselves on a retreat to create characters and build a plot. As a writer with over 20 books published, I certainly brought writing experience to the table. But Quinn had the most important role in this storytelling process: to bring her lived experiences to the page.
It gets very old being the different one. The one in the crowd who can’t drink the fancy coffees all her friends do. The one who has to weigh whether a night out at a party will be worth the exhaustion the next day. The one who has to ask in great detail about menu items at a restaurant or risk suffering a debilitating flare-up. It’s hard for others to understand what it means to take medications on a daily basis, dealing with the side effects that can come with them, or getting your blood drawn so frequently that you have to keep switching arms to avoid scarring.
I was a shy kid and it took many years of managing a disease to teach me the importance of advocating for myself. Back in school, that meant explaining to a teacher why I couldn’t “take care of personal needs'' during the minutes-long passing period. Sometimes that meant calling my parents to come get me from a party (including my high school graduation party). Sometimes that meant standing up to doctors when they just couldn’t seem to hear what I was saying. When you have a chronic illness, learning how to say what you need is not just a nicety but a requirement for survival.
Kirby: We have been blown away by emails and messages from people who are so grateful that this book is out there. One young woman, who’d been diagnosed at age 11, said she felt like everything had been taken away from her, especially her beloved gymnastics. She wrote, “After I left the hospital, it finally hit me. I had a disease. A disease that has no cure. I felt like I was the only one going through this. . so this book means everything to me.” We feel so honored to be able to offer a space where this young woman and others like her feel represented; feel less alone.
Quinn: My mom and I are so pleased that children's books are starting to normalize conversations about physical and mental health realities and issues. By writing a hopeful, honest, and sometimes humorous story of living with Crohn’s disease, it is our desire to add to that conversation. We want to support the Tesses of the world dealing with various hard-to-talk-about conditions by saying it’s okay to talk, even about the embarrassing stuff. Especially about the embarrassing stuff! And for those unaffected by physical or mental health challenges, we hope this story offers insights that may foster greater understanding, empathy, and kindness.
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